Gary Ecelbager, author of Black Jack Logan: An Extraordinary Life in Peace and War, accurately describes that Jack A. Logan "may be the most noteworthy nineteenth-century American to go unnoticed in the twentieth and twenty-first centuries." How true that is! Amidst barbecues, family gatherings, and alcohol, we forget the reason we celebrate Memorial Day. Most people seem to know the basics of the story-- that it's a holiday meant to remember deceased veterans who fought for the country. Few, however, know that it is thanks to John Logan's eloquent influence and activities in veterans' affairs that we celebrate one of the country's favorite holidays for debauchery-- third only to the holy-days (no sarcastic pun intended) of Christmas and Easter.
There is a lot of information on this topic online, and I don't like to spend too much time paraphrasing encyclopedic data. Therefore, instead of giving you a review of the history, I suggest you Google the topic if it interests you, and also check out this blog which I think is an excellent exposition of the history: "Memorial Day History" Also, if you happen to be in Jackson County, Illinois this weekend, be sure to stop by this amazing museum in Murphysboro dedicated entirely to John Logan: Logan Museum.
Joys of Memorial Day
I like Memorial Day because it is a day when Americans from all sides of the ideological spectrum drop their differences and join together as one human race to remember those who died in battle. It is a day of unity when we honor all who died while serving the Department of Defense (formerly and more accurately the Department of War, the new euphemism is so reminiscent of Orwellian newspeak!), and we honor their memory regardless of whether or not the cause they fought for was a popular one. That means that yes, even Confederate soldiers are entitled to this remembrance, as unpopular as their cause may be in the modern world. After all, these men and women are all children of America, just fighting over toys like kids in a sandbox. Like any parent, America smiles, urges them back indoors before their dinner gets cold, and then lulls them to sleep in her warm mother's arms. Mothers never take sides, and humans are always like children; only that when they're older, their toys are more expensive and their fights bloodier. Nature, beautiful as it is by daylight in spring, has a terrifying aspect hanging on the midnight sky of the wildest and most secluded forests of the land. And so it is in human affairs. Even the great, brave, and just grey-eyed goddess Athena has a dark side to her-- Pallas, the name she adopted from her beloved black sister, whom she killed by accident in game. That's her story, of course, and she's sticking to it.
With the public, certain causes are more popular than others because history is usually told from the victor's point of view. It is the victor's prerogative and privilege to get to write a story in which he is the protagonist and his opponent the most evil antagonist. As I always say, your antagonist is the protagonist in the novel in which you are the antagonist. You may think you know what is right and wrong a priori, but such values are taught by the culture-- and the culture was born out of a struggle against those who do not agree with those ideas. Even my cat's idea of right and wrong is defined by my feedback as the authority figure in his life. For example, he knows it's "wrong" to hang out in the washroom because I chastise him every time he exits the house to explore rooms in the property that I consider unsafe for him. It's not universal truth, and it is not objectively wrong for a cat to exit the house at will, but it is the rule I have enforced. Like any creature, his natural desire is always in conflict with the social contract, so sometimes he tries to sneak out when I am not looking-- but quickly runs in when I give him the eye. Some living creatures are better at following rules than others, and though it may seem like I'm going on a tangent, the idea is the same-- right and wrong is defined by the culture and authority. The culture gets to do that because they were more physically and intellectually effective at selling that truth, plus it helps if they hold power of the money supply. But humans are fickle creatures with short attention spans, and they get bored of their truths rather quickly. Hence, why the idea of truth changes every age, and what was true yesterday is falsehood today.These are things to keep in mind when we are tempted to judge those groups that are demonized by those who hold the mighty pen and scepter of historical authority.
As everyone fights greedily for their values-- whether on the bloody battlefield or the passive aggressive ballroom-- few see that their ideas are not universal truth, only what suits them. It is good to have a value system by which to stand in the journey of life, the same way it is good for travellers to carry a map with them. It is everyone's duty as a human being to live by and stand up for their right to their truth. However, it is good to retain perspective and understand that other causes were just as important to other people as ours are to us. There would be fewer wars if more of us understood this. We don't have to agree with the Confederate cause to sympathize with them. We don't have to be rock-warming philosophers to understand that if the Confederate side had won, we would have been raised on history books and stories that paint the Union States as the villain-- and we would've believed it and repeated it to our kids, because we humans believe anything that is repeated long enough, especially if repeated by the majority. We humans seem to be programmed to believe that the majority knows best. Just some food for thought before we condemn.
Memorial Day Celebration
There is some criticism floating out there regarding the way Americans celebrate Memorial Day. "This is a day to remember those who lost their lives in battle," they say, "not to gorge on food at a family barbecue." Could it be that the complementary aspect of remembering the dead is celebrating life? As we remember the deceased loved ones we took for granted and imagined would last us forever, we are reminded of our mortality and how frail life really is. It makes sense to use the holiday to celebrate life as we remember those we lost. After all, we are headed that way ourselves regardless of profession, and time's wing'd chariot waits for no one-- not even the grieving.
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| Taken by Jane Calderon at Rose Hills Memorial Park in Whittier, CA. Allegedly, the largest cemetery in the U.S. |
Every Memorial Day, and on the anniversary of the death of a loved one, I always recall and recite this poem by Thomas Hardy.
"Now I am dead you sing to me
The songs we used to know,
But while I lived you had no wish
Or care for doing so.
Now I am dead you come to me
In the moonlight, comfortless;
Ah, what would I have given alive
To win such tenderness!
When you are dead, and stand to me
Not differenced, as now,
But like again, will you be cold
As when we lived, or how?:
It's good to honor the dead, but even better to honor them alive when they can appreciate it. Since we know we are all going to die, whether in battle or warm in our beds, it makes sense to be kinder to each other before Atropos decides to cut the frail thread of life. One of the ways to do this is to celebrate life, and all the great things in it with one's loved ones. As Siduri tells Gilgamesh in The Epic of Gilgamesh:
"Gilgamesh, where are you hurrying to?
You will never find the life for which you are looking.
When the gods created man
they alloted to him death,
but life they retained in their own keeping.
As for you, Gilgamesh,
fill your belly with good things;
day and night, night and day, dance and be merry,
feast and rejoice.
Let your clothes be fresh,
bathe yourself in water,
cherish the little child that holds your hand,
and make your wife happy in your embrace;
for this too is the lot of man."
Sounds like a fantastic lot if you ask me. As we reflect on the brevity of life and remember deceased soldiers during a moment of silence, it makes more sense to rejoice with the family for the majority of the weekend. Does it not?
Happy Memorial Day Weekend, and enjoy your lot!!



















